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My New Book, TAMING YOUR OUTER CHILD, Hits the Bookstores on January 25, 2011

A Revolutionary Program to Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns

Improve your love life, stay on a diet, end procrastination – and reach your goals!

Taming Your Outer Child: A Revolutionary Program to Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns

We all have self-sabotaging tendencies, but what we don’t know is why.  What makes us break our diet, date the wrong people, or have that third glass of wine when we told ourselves we’d only have two?  What makes someone like Elliot Spitzer or John Edwards risk all they’ve worked to achieve with outrageous and selfish behavior?  The answers all lie in a revolutionary, prescriptive program to help readers curb their self-destructive behavior.  In TAMING YOUR OUTER CHILD: A Revolutionary Program to Overcome Self-Defeating Patterns (Ballantine Books Hardcover, on-sale January 25, 2011), veteran psychotherapist and theoretician Susan Anderson introduces us to our Outer Child, the long-overlooked part of one’s personality that is responsible for unhealthy and unwanted behavior.

Most of us have met our Outer Child once too often.  A menacing older sibling to your emotionally needy Inner Child, Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counter-productive ways.  It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans. Outer decides to watch the game when you’ve resolved to clean out the garage.  Outer yells at a work colleague when you promised yourself you’d think before you speak.  In TAMING YOUR OUTER CHILD, Anderson brings clarity as to why we make the choices we make – and shows that “lack of willpower” is not to blame.  She offers a paradigm-shifting program to tame Outer Child’s destructive behavior and embrace a life of happiness, connection, fulfillment, self mastery and self love.

TAMING YOUR OUTER CHILD will help successfully put the adult – you – back in charge so that you can stop the self-sabotage and get on with fulfilling your dreams and living life.

“This book will be an enormous help to anyone looking to let go of past disappointments and self-recrimination and get on with the essential work of healing, building boundaries, and acquiring skills to reach your goals.  I hope you will read it and do the exercises it provides.”
John Bradshaw, #1 New York Times bestselling author

“With a program designed to undo primal fears, [Anderson] tackles such topics as lowered self-esteem, lovesick feelings, food urges, diet, chronic depression, procrastination, heartache and a primary source of conflict with relationships…readers under stress who are desperate for help will view this book as a valuable tool for healing.”
Publishers Weekly

Categories: abandonment, Outer Child
  1. Janea Taylor
    January 14, 2011 at 4:46 am

    Hi Susan,

    I am looking forward to the release of Taming Your Outer Child. I’ve read The Journey from Abandonment to Healing and have almost completed The Journey from Heartbreak to Connection. I have found both books to be very helpful in my healing and recovery process.

    However, I have a question for you. It seems that in both books you recommend finding a partner who does not trigger your “childhood attachments”… someone who does not push your love buttons, in terms of repeating old patterns and trying to heal your past through a relationship. I’ve done a lot of research on this topic and have read about Freud;s theory of “repetition compulsion” and how that draws us to specific people that allow us to repeat painful parts of our past. I’ve also talked to my counselor quite a bit about this issue.

    It seems there is a debate amongst relationship therapists & counselors in regards to whether or not you should actually seek out or attempt to avoid these types of partners. Based on what I’ve read in your books, I’ve gathered that you recommend avoiding these types of partners and instead seek out emotional safety rather than “the right chemistry”.

    So, initially I wanted to ask you what your thoughts were on the idea of Imago relationships and the theory that Harville Hendricks refers to in his books. And then I noticed on your Blogroll here, you have a link to Imago Relationships – the “getting the love you want” website. So, now I’m even more curious what your thoughts and beliefs are. Do you recommend attempting to work through the healing process with an Imago match, someone whom you have “the right chemistry” with? Or, do you recommend avoiding these types of people as potential partners?

    Thanks for sharing your knowledge and wisdom through your books and blog! You are an inspiration! Can’t wait to read your next book…


  2. Rita Castillo
    September 7, 2011 at 5:13 am

    Im reading this book now. Just about to start chapter seven. This book is so amazing. What a break through already. I been telling everybody even the therapist, they are purchasing it, I’m so glad, I now really sincerely feel that I got HOPE

  3. Rita Castillo
    September 9, 2011 at 4:47 am

    This book is so amazing. Im not halfway through but I understand so much. What healings to come. I finally got some hope and understanding.

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